“I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions or unnecessary conversations. If we don’t vibrate on the same frequency there’s just no reason for us to waste our time. I’d rather have no one and wait for substance than to not feel someone and fake the funk.”
― Joquesse Eugenia

The thing about meeting new people after a certain age... it's just so taxing and tiring. It's like having to build the friendship from scratch, not knowing what each other like or dislike, their pet peeves, their habits, their personal life, sensitive topics that should never be touched on.

I guess when we were younger it's much easier befriending others because we did not establish a firm set of beliefs and knowledge of what's acceptable and what's not. We were still exploring the world and ourselves and we were, in a way, doing that together with the people (most likely classmates/ schoolmates) around us. That is probably why it was easier to form a stronger bond; we talk to each other about things that happened, as it happens.

When we are all 'grown up', more sure of what we like or dislike, it's difficult to inform new friends about it. It's not like we can tell them "Hi, I'm XXX. And I like XXX and dislike XXX." We have to learn about these slowly as time goes by, or when something happens, which sometimes is.. annoying because apparently not everyone has the same thoughts on the same issue, even if it's not socially "acceptable" (i.e. common sense). For example, being late and not even looking or saying sorry, or not participating/ giving much effort for project work, not returning borrowed money voluntarily, etc etc. I don't know why some people feel that it's okay to do all those things while some have to suffer the inequality of the situation. I thought it was supposed to be "obviously the right thing to do". But humans are weirdly wired in VERY different ways I guess.

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