When people come to me and grumble about how they are disappointed with someone or how they are never returning the effort whatsoever, (especially multiple times) my advice to them would naturally be to abstain from the situation and people that makes you feel unworthy.

But after all that, they forget the things they said, the anger, disappointment and the unjust they felt. If it works out well, fine, but it doesn't and this goes on in a vicious cycle. And I'm left feeling like the antagonist of the situation for suggesting the things I've suggested. So what does that make me? A third party? Someone trying to "sabotage" others' relationship/friendship/whatever ship there is..

And does that make people hypocrites? To complain about someone yet still go back to being with them, sacrificing knowing you will still feel unhappy at the end of the day? I would understand if the complain was a "sigh.." and not a "he/she did this AGAIN!!" If I've ever complain about anyone, I probably did reduce the interactions with this person unless necessary.

Anyway, bottom line is probably.. don't complain (to me) about someone you're unhappy with if you're the willing party in this unbalance equation.

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